If
you are in the habit of blaming others for your attitude, behaviour, thoughts
or words, make a conscious attempt to stop. We are in control of our own
actions. Learn how humility, guts and a willingness to improve can change your
life.
I read a story of a student who sat in her class and had trouble
controlling her amusement with the class clown. After several demands from her teacher
to cease her laughter, she later explained that her friend was making her
laugh. The teacher quickly responded with an inquiry “does your friend push a
button on a remote control that says ‘you should laugh?’”
We can rephrase the teacher’s question to fit any of our circumstances. Does someone else have a remote control that makes us say unkind things, abuse a spouse or a child, prostitute, fornicate, sleep too much, to be arrogant, abusive, think about something that we shouldn’t, waste our time, lie, steal, cheat or be dishonest? We are free to choose as we wish and, as such are responsible for the choices that we make. With that in mind, when someone in your family makes unwise choices, it is not your fault. You can be there to offer love and encouragement as she deals with the consequences of her actions, but you should not blame yourself for the choices of others.
Each and every one of us holds our own remote control that enables us to choose our behaviour. We can use it to make people smile, encourage others, serve those in need and take care of our family. Accepting responsibility for our own actions requires humility, guts and a willingness to improve ourselves.
Humility
it is OK not to be the best, the smartest or the most talented. Humility is a powerful characteristic which allows you to grow. It is accepting responsibility for your actions and their consequences. We should never blame others for our circumstances. As we develop the ability to be humble, we will be able to submit ourselves to whatever circumstances we find ourselves. We will have the strength necessary to overcome any obstacle.
Guts
Admitting that we have made a mistake, that we are not all knowing and that we are imperfect takes guts and courage. Taking the blame for mistakes you have made or of your personal failures will allow you to become successful. Michael Jordan has become one of the most well-known basketball players in history. He explains "I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions, I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." Instead of trying to be better than your neighbour, compete with yourself. Have the guts necessary to keep on improving.
We can rephrase the teacher’s question to fit any of our circumstances. Does someone else have a remote control that makes us say unkind things, abuse a spouse or a child, prostitute, fornicate, sleep too much, to be arrogant, abusive, think about something that we shouldn’t, waste our time, lie, steal, cheat or be dishonest? We are free to choose as we wish and, as such are responsible for the choices that we make. With that in mind, when someone in your family makes unwise choices, it is not your fault. You can be there to offer love and encouragement as she deals with the consequences of her actions, but you should not blame yourself for the choices of others.
Each and every one of us holds our own remote control that enables us to choose our behaviour. We can use it to make people smile, encourage others, serve those in need and take care of our family. Accepting responsibility for our own actions requires humility, guts and a willingness to improve ourselves.
Humility
it is OK not to be the best, the smartest or the most talented. Humility is a powerful characteristic which allows you to grow. It is accepting responsibility for your actions and their consequences. We should never blame others for our circumstances. As we develop the ability to be humble, we will be able to submit ourselves to whatever circumstances we find ourselves. We will have the strength necessary to overcome any obstacle.
Guts
Admitting that we have made a mistake, that we are not all knowing and that we are imperfect takes guts and courage. Taking the blame for mistakes you have made or of your personal failures will allow you to become successful. Michael Jordan has become one of the most well-known basketball players in history. He explains "I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions, I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." Instead of trying to be better than your neighbour, compete with yourself. Have the guts necessary to keep on improving.
Willingness to improve
Once you accept the way things are you are on the road to greater success and happiness. Set realistic expectations for yourself and be willing to set goals that will stretch you and help you to become a better person. If you are too busy blaming others for your misfortunes, you will not have time to improve on your attitude or your circumstances.
This knowledge should dispel any temptation to blame someone else for our adversity, trials, luck or success. We are responsible to take action with the resources at our disposal. We can choose to learn from the encouragement and disappointments others offer along the path of life. May God give us the grace to work on our weaknesses.
Once you accept the way things are you are on the road to greater success and happiness. Set realistic expectations for yourself and be willing to set goals that will stretch you and help you to become a better person. If you are too busy blaming others for your misfortunes, you will not have time to improve on your attitude or your circumstances.
This knowledge should dispel any temptation to blame someone else for our adversity, trials, luck or success. We are responsible to take action with the resources at our disposal. We can choose to learn from the encouragement and disappointments others offer along the path of life. May God give us the grace to work on our weaknesses.
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